1. Not having to do my hair
2. Not having to shave
3. Not having to wax (there's a trend here)
4. Wonderful head rubs from my 6 year old with yummy smelling lotion and soft little hands
5. An excuse for naps. Every day.
6. A valid excuse to be lazy. And selfish.
7. Knowing that I was launching a full "Shock and Awe" assault on the cancer. There's something unnerving about laying down arms.
8. Being spoiled and pampered by everyone.
9. Feeling young, vibrant and healthy compared to the other patients.
10. Hearing from dear friends, old and new. I've promised myself I'll keep the contact going.
Wednesday, December 10, 2008
Thursday, December 4, 2008
The Chemo Finale
December 4, 2009. My last chemo treatment. My best high school friend had flown down to be with me and keep the house running. The kids were on winter break. Thankfully my friend stayed with the girls so that Bill could be with me.
We arrived right on time, as usual. It was rush hour in the infusion suite, as usual. I seemed to be on the same schedule with the same group of patients. One woman, in particular, was there every single time I was. She was quite a bit older than me and only spoke Spanish. Her wig was horrible. Most days it was crooked and helmet-like. We exchanged glances and knowing smiles. I wondered if today was her last day too.
I'd been lucky with my first two treatments. The infusion "suite" was full and there were no available seats. So I got a private room. That was a good thing. It was the same barcalounger chair with the TV in front of it, but there was something very comforting about not having to make eye contact with any of the other patients. It made it easier to stay in my own little bubble, not think about mom, or what could wait for me in my future.
This day, however, I was not so lucky. The suite was a busy place. The private rooms were all taken, by patients already hooked up to their IV pole with the telling bags of chemical cocktails hanging in order of delivery. The red ones were the worst. Adriamyacin. They gave me that one when I had Hodgkin's so many years ago. I nicknamed it "The Red Death." It made me sick as a dog, burned as it went in, made me pee red, and did a number on my heart. After just two cycles, the oncologist changed my regimen as he didn't like the affect The Red Death had on my heart. Today I wonder if that was the cause of the mitral valve regurgitation for which I take a daily pill.
Back to the suite. The nurse had me sit in an uncomfortable chair to start. I was hopeful that this was my "on deck" chair and that I would move to one of the more comfortable loungers before they started my drip, which took 3+ hours start to finish. Bill had to stand.
While in the on-deck chair I got my IV hooked up. Thankfully the oncology nurses know their way around needles and veins. Most often it took just one stick, thankfully. Have I mentioned I'm not a big fan of the whole needle thing? Sometimes when getting blood drawn it will take 3 and 4 tries. I've gotten pretty good at being able to tell which ones will have a problem. It's a confidence thing. Plus the size of the needle. I've gotten very adept at saying "please use a butterfly. I've got chemo-fried veins."
Not long after an elderly gentleman in the big green lounger to my right got up to leave, and I was ushered to his chair. There was a chair for Bill too. We both settled in. Me watching All My Children on the TV above my head (in such a group setting there wasn't really an option of changing the channel), and Bill opened his school books.
John, the Nurse Practitioner and guy-in-charge-of-chemo, came over to chat. "How are you feeling?" he said. We exchanged pleasantries then he connected the bag of my first cocktail. The Happy Juice. And thank God for it. Keeps the nausea at bay amazingly well. I'm happy to report that I did not vomit once as a result of my chemotherapy. Happy juice. Rock on!
Next came the Taxotere. Derived from the French Yew tree (not to be confused with Taxol, my mother's cocktail of choice, which was derived from the North American Yew tree). Soonafter he came back on hung the next "on deck" bag. This one was Cytoxan. Derived from who knows what or where.
Bill and I both settled in. The chemo didn't hurt going in. I didn't feel any different. Modern medicine had come a very long way in the 24 years since my last chemotherapy experience. In fact, it was almost boring. I alternated staring at the TV, reading my book, and dozing in the big comfy chair.
Prior to my first treatment I hadn't eaten anything for fear I was going to be nauseous right away. After a couple of hours Bill was hungry and went to grab a sandwich. He came back with a tuna sandwich and a smoothie. "Do you want some?" He said. At first I thought "No, I shouldn't just in case." But as I watched him eat, and I smelled the tuna, I thought "That smells really good." And so began our chemo tradition. A lunch date featuring tuna salad sandwiches and a smoothie. Today was no different, so Bill set out for Henry's Market, and came back with our lunch, which we both enjoyed.
Before too long John came and switched the IV over to the Cytoxan. One more hour to go. One more hour before I could say "It's all moving forward from here." "The worst is over." "I can get on with my life."
"I need to call mom and tell her," I thought to myself. "Oh yeah, I can't." Bill was there, holding my hand and studying his books. "I so want to talk to my mom," I said. As John came over and removed the IV, he began to review all of the things that would happen next. Follow-up appointments, blood work, etc., etc., etc. All I could think of was my mom, and how much she would have reveled in celebrating this milestone with me. So I cried, alone. Another one down. Another chapter nearly finished. I was assuming at this point that the reconstruction process would begin a new chapter, for this marks the end (we hope) of yet another illness. The rest is just window dressing.
As my mom always said, "this too shall pass." And so it did. Next?
We arrived right on time, as usual. It was rush hour in the infusion suite, as usual. I seemed to be on the same schedule with the same group of patients. One woman, in particular, was there every single time I was. She was quite a bit older than me and only spoke Spanish. Her wig was horrible. Most days it was crooked and helmet-like. We exchanged glances and knowing smiles. I wondered if today was her last day too.
I'd been lucky with my first two treatments. The infusion "suite" was full and there were no available seats. So I got a private room. That was a good thing. It was the same barcalounger chair with the TV in front of it, but there was something very comforting about not having to make eye contact with any of the other patients. It made it easier to stay in my own little bubble, not think about mom, or what could wait for me in my future.
This day, however, I was not so lucky. The suite was a busy place. The private rooms were all taken, by patients already hooked up to their IV pole with the telling bags of chemical cocktails hanging in order of delivery. The red ones were the worst. Adriamyacin. They gave me that one when I had Hodgkin's so many years ago. I nicknamed it "The Red Death." It made me sick as a dog, burned as it went in, made me pee red, and did a number on my heart. After just two cycles, the oncologist changed my regimen as he didn't like the affect The Red Death had on my heart. Today I wonder if that was the cause of the mitral valve regurgitation for which I take a daily pill.
Back to the suite. The nurse had me sit in an uncomfortable chair to start. I was hopeful that this was my "on deck" chair and that I would move to one of the more comfortable loungers before they started my drip, which took 3+ hours start to finish. Bill had to stand.
While in the on-deck chair I got my IV hooked up. Thankfully the oncology nurses know their way around needles and veins. Most often it took just one stick, thankfully. Have I mentioned I'm not a big fan of the whole needle thing? Sometimes when getting blood drawn it will take 3 and 4 tries. I've gotten pretty good at being able to tell which ones will have a problem. It's a confidence thing. Plus the size of the needle. I've gotten very adept at saying "please use a butterfly. I've got chemo-fried veins."
Not long after an elderly gentleman in the big green lounger to my right got up to leave, and I was ushered to his chair. There was a chair for Bill too. We both settled in. Me watching All My Children on the TV above my head (in such a group setting there wasn't really an option of changing the channel), and Bill opened his school books.
John, the Nurse Practitioner and guy-in-charge-of-chemo, came over to chat. "How are you feeling?" he said. We exchanged pleasantries then he connected the bag of my first cocktail. The Happy Juice. And thank God for it. Keeps the nausea at bay amazingly well. I'm happy to report that I did not vomit once as a result of my chemotherapy. Happy juice. Rock on!
Next came the Taxotere. Derived from the French Yew tree (not to be confused with Taxol, my mother's cocktail of choice, which was derived from the North American Yew tree). Soonafter he came back on hung the next "on deck" bag. This one was Cytoxan. Derived from who knows what or where.
Bill and I both settled in. The chemo didn't hurt going in. I didn't feel any different. Modern medicine had come a very long way in the 24 years since my last chemotherapy experience. In fact, it was almost boring. I alternated staring at the TV, reading my book, and dozing in the big comfy chair.
Prior to my first treatment I hadn't eaten anything for fear I was going to be nauseous right away. After a couple of hours Bill was hungry and went to grab a sandwich. He came back with a tuna sandwich and a smoothie. "Do you want some?" He said. At first I thought "No, I shouldn't just in case." But as I watched him eat, and I smelled the tuna, I thought "That smells really good." And so began our chemo tradition. A lunch date featuring tuna salad sandwiches and a smoothie. Today was no different, so Bill set out for Henry's Market, and came back with our lunch, which we both enjoyed.
Before too long John came and switched the IV over to the Cytoxan. One more hour to go. One more hour before I could say "It's all moving forward from here." "The worst is over." "I can get on with my life."
"I need to call mom and tell her," I thought to myself. "Oh yeah, I can't." Bill was there, holding my hand and studying his books. "I so want to talk to my mom," I said. As John came over and removed the IV, he began to review all of the things that would happen next. Follow-up appointments, blood work, etc., etc., etc. All I could think of was my mom, and how much she would have reveled in celebrating this milestone with me. So I cried, alone. Another one down. Another chapter nearly finished. I was assuming at this point that the reconstruction process would begin a new chapter, for this marks the end (we hope) of yet another illness. The rest is just window dressing.
As my mom always said, "this too shall pass." And so it did. Next?
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